Are You Accountable To or Accountable For?

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My wife’s parents were over for dinner the other night. Renee cooked a nice meal, we had a great time together and after sitting around for a while to talk after dinner I drove them home. Along with Renee’s brother and his wife we look after them, we help them balance their check book and we make sure they have the care necessary to be both comfortable and safe. We do the same for my mother.

Growing up, as children, we were accountable to our parents. We had to do our chores, we had to clean our room and we certainly had to make sure our homework was done.

As adults with aging parents we now find that we are accountable for them. We look after them. We make sure they have what they need and we insure their safety.

When you are accountable to someone they are responsible for some aspect of your well-being; they affect your life beyond a surface level.

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The Biggest Leadership Myth

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In recent years, a lot of people have fallen prey to a dangerous myth, the myth of something called “self-leadership.”

Supposedly, “self-leadership” is all about taking responsibility for developing your own capacity and your own communication skills. Supposedly, it’s all about you focusing with more and more clarity over time on where you are going and how you’re going to get there. I have no problem with any of that. There’s nothing wrong with focusing on personal growth, and there’s nothing wrong with committing yourself to a path of personal development. I have a big problem with the label.

Something strange, and damaging to ourselves and our organizations, can happen when we call that process of personal development “self-leadership.” All too often, we end up focusing a little too much on the “self” part of that formula.

There is no such thing as “self-leadership.” It’s an imaginary construct.
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